Rule #2

Having no expectations of somebody is a great way to protect yourself from disappointment. Caveat: it’s also a great way to never be rewarded.

The girl I’m dating is really not ready for a “serious” relationship, so we try to keep things as simple and basic as possible. We try to simply keep things “fun” and not get too worked up over what we are doing or our status.

This system is working great for her, it’s slowly eating away at me. I mean, why have a relationship with somebody if you don’t really “connect” with them on a deep level. What we have seems very primitive. But I guess that’s the point of the “system,” right?

I get very frustrated sometimes when I express something I consider a sweet comment and she doesn’t show any appreciation for it. I have to remind myself of rule #2 of our system where we have no expectations of each other. It helps, well until the next time it happens.

I’m going to keep going with this for awhile. I’m hoping the relationship eventually evolves naturally into what I think it should be, into what I want it to be. But if it doesn’t I need to be prepared to end it for my own well-being, no matter how much I care about her and like who she is.